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Stages of Romance
Ladies: Have you ever wondered why your man is so non-romantic? He does little things, but he just doesn't get what you mean by "romance". It comes up for most of us. It's such a popular topic it, you can see women discussing it on television everyday. Keep reading to see why.
Men: Can you not understand why it is that she tells you to be more romantic? You think about her everyday and do things for her, what more does she want from you? Keep reading to find out.
There are varying degrees of romance. Most people are romantic in one way or another, the problem seems to be the level of romance (most) men function at is not the level the women want them to. Then once in a while they'll surprise you and knock your socks off with something that makes you wonder why you ever doubted their romantic nature, shortly there after it's back to life as usual.
Low Level Romance: This is the everyday little things a person does to let you know they care. EXAMPLES: Saying "I love you" out of the blue,doing an "icky" chore without having to be asked or reminded, making dinner so you don't have to, taking care of the kids so you can read a book and be "off duty" for a few hours...
Mid Level Romance: For this one, a person goes a bit more out of the way then in the low level, they really start showing they are thinking of you. EXAMPLES: Going to a store just to get something, buying you the thing you like just cause you mentioned you like it, taking you our for some pampering just because...
High Level Romance:This is what most of us consider "romance". It's planning going out of your way to give the two, (or more) of you a truly special time.EXAMPLES:Candle light dinner, a picnic in "our special place", a weekend alone to just spend together, Waking up to breakfast in bed the morning after, going to the theater...
Ultra-High Level Romance:Most people never get this, mainly because even if they wanted to, most couldn't afford it. It's doing something BIG and spontaneous.EXAMPLES:going to Italy for a real Italian dinner, taking you to Paris for the fashion show of your favorite designer, A vacation in Hawaii just to smell the flowers...
Knowing what your significant other wants from you, and being able to communicate with them what you want will improve your relationship all around. Remember to take the time to talk about your romantic wants and needs. If you need to, make a list of things your honey could do that you would find romantic so they can surprise you
The Natural Evolution of a Woman's Soul
When I was a kid, around 13 or so, I read romance novels. But I hid them
from my mother. I hid them from my friends. I hid them from my teachers.
When I got a boyfriend I stopped hiding my interest in romances, but I must
confess I didn't my boyfriend what I liked in my romance heroes. Because the
truth was . . . it wasn't very politically correct.
Romance Heroes We Know & Love
Some women like romance heroes who are knights in shining armor. They like strong, intelligent, well intentioned men who would never hurt a hair on a woman's head.
Man, I wish I liked those guys. I reallly find them very dull. To me they look like the cotton candy at the carnival, sweet and too soft to last long.
I like very wicked men in my romance novels. I like intelligent, strong, passionate men who know exactly what they want. I like men, especially those in historical romances, who think its a "man's world". I read historical romances specifically because heroes in those books have every right to be arrogant and commanding.
And yet I think I kept that secret from my boyfriend, and later husband, for about two decades. Because in the real world I didn't like violent or demanding people much at all.
And then, around 35 or so . . .
The coolest thing about getting old, or growing up which is closer to the truth, is that you finally decide that with all the screwed up stuff in the world, the weird stuff about you isn't so weird. Around the time I was 35 I finally just came out to my husband about the whole romance hero thing.
He read a few of my books (or tried to) got a clue, and suddenly understood that there were times when i wanted my fantasies to become part of the real world.
In a way, it was like getting married all over again. For the first time I had no secrets. I had nothing to hide. I could live my fantasies . . . because the love of my life knew exactly what they were.
It was like getting married all over again.
Apparently I am Not Alone
The strange thing is that I'm not alone. I know so many women who have made this journey from secret romance reader to living their fantasies, who married the knight in shining armor only to discover he could be the Black Prince upon demand.
I like to think the romance novels I've read over the years paved the way for a happy and passionate marriage. I know they helped me come to recognize that I wasn't a freak. Every book I had come to know and love was written by a woman who also found difficult men easy to love.